The Disease of Word-Breaking

photo by Josh Scholten
photo by Josh Scholten
photo by Josh Scholten
photo by Josh Scholten

 

The forsaking of all others is a keeping of faith, not just with the chosen one, but with the ones forsaken…  One is married to marriage as well as to one’s spouse. But one is married also to something vital of one’s own that does not exist before the marriage: one’s given word. It now seems to me that the modern misunderstanding of marriage involves a gross misunderstanding and underestimation of the seriousness of giving one’s word, and of the dangers of breaking it once it is given. Adultery and divorce now must be looked upon as instances of that disease of word-breaking, which our age justifies as “realistic” or “practical” or “necessary,” but which is tattering the invariably single fabric of speech and trust.
~Wendell Berry from “The Body and the Earth” in The Art of the Commonplace: The Agrarian Essays

Covenant between two married people, between parent and child, between coworkers, between countries, between God and His people — is too often broken, irrevocably shattered when convenient and deemed necessary.

I see the sequelae of broken vows, broken words, broken covenants every day in my work.   Divorcing parents destroy the integrity of a family built on trust and commitment.  Relationships wax and wane with the ebb and flow of one’s mood and need for something/someone new.

It is a chronic disease of acute trust deficiency, this lack of keeping faith with one another, this brittle bitter breaking of word and promise.

Our only hope is in the one who kept His promise fully and wholly, renewing His covenant with us until His last breath.
And so, it is finished, having been paid in full, and our faith will never again be broken.

photo by Josh Scholten
photo by Josh Scholten

2 thoughts on “The Disease of Word-Breaking

  1. Wow! You hit the nail on the head. You have said it like it is in our society — even among clergy.

    Granted, there are legitimate reasons for some divorces, such as severe physical and/or mental abuse that results in damage to a spousal victim and to children in a marriage. Such marriages are usually beyond saving and need to be ended through civil proceedings or through a church annulment.

    The mindset that you describe so succinctly, “Relationships wax and wane with the ebb and flow of one’s mood and the need for something/someone new,” is symptomatic of the current state of too many marriages today. It is a disease manifest in our societal throw-away mentality. This same mentality is mirrored in abortion statistics and in the emerging legitimizing of euthanasia.

    You are correct about the One with whom our only hope lies. The Catch 22 there is — how many know about or even believe in this One? His voice and His Light are constantly being drowned out by the godless attractions and noises that assault us daily. Maranatha, our Redeemer Christ, maranatha!

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