The Solace of Ordinary





Do not ask your children
to strive for extraordinary lives.
Such striving may seem admirable,
but it is a way of foolishness.
Help them instead to find the wonder
and the marvel of an ordinary life.
Show them the joy of tasting
tomatoes, apples, and pears.
Show them how to cry
when pets and people die.
Show them the infinite pleasure
in the touch of a hand.
And make the ordinary come alive for them.
The extraordinary will take care of itself.
~William Martin from The Parent’s Tao Te Ching: Ancient Advice for Modern Parents





Flowers seem intended for the solace of ordinary humanity.
~John Ruskin




















We know the solace in the ordinary as life throws flowers at our feet.

Ordinary is each breath, each heart beat, each tear, each smile, one after another and another.

We are offered the gift of each ordinary moment;  only grace makes it extraordinary.









5 thoughts on “The Solace of Ordinary

  1. Every time the Hallmark production of “The Magic of Ordinary Days” is aired, I watch it. I need the reminder. . . daily. . . that the best of life is found in the ordinary. Thank you once again for wise words.

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  2. Love this poem by William Martin. I just ordered the book. We are so focused on the extraordinary that we are stressing our kids out and causing epidemic anxiety and depression in our children/teens/young adults. Not everybody has a specific Olympic talent; but everyone has his/her strengths that need to be highlighted and brought out. This will help create rich and joyful lives – as we live out our authenticity and our best selves

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  3. A vital reminder for all adults who have a responsibility and/ or opportunity to interact with and influence our children in forming and nurturing their moral development and their civic and social responsibilities — not merely through preaching or teaching — but by our actions. Children are extremely sensitive to adult hypocrisy. They seem to recognize it instinctively. Two early well-known hypotheses re child development and behavior have suggested that ‘Tabula Rasa” (Blank Slate) and “Nature vs. Nurture” are important indicators. Parents and other family members and close relatives, especially, have both a valuable opportunity and a responsibility to make a difference in a child’s life, particularly in moral development, in helping to form positive moral values, attitudes and beliefs that will reflect whom they will eventually become as adults and as future citizens of our world. What an awesome opportunity that is. We cannot afford to ignore it.

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