Thirty Five Years Ago Today


Before God and this gathering, I vow from my heart and spirit that I will be your wife/husband for as long as we both shall live.

I will love you with faithfulness, knowing its importance in sustaining us through good times and bad.

I will love you with respect, serving your greatest good and supporting your continued growth.

I will love you with compassion, knowing the strength and power of forgiveness.

I will love you with hope, remembering our shared belief in the grace of God and His guidance of our marriage.

“And at home, by the fire, whenever you look up, there I shall be–and whenever I look up, there will be you.”

(our wedding vows for our September 19, 1981 wedding at First Seattle Christian Reformed Church — the last line adapted from Thomas Hardy’s  “Far From the Madding Crowd”)


I give you what is unbounded, passing from dark to dark,
containing darkness: a night of rain, an early morning.
I give you the life I have let live for the love of you:
a clump of orange-blooming weeds beside the road,
the young orchard waiting in the snow, our own life
that we have planted in the ground, as I
have planted mine in you.

~Wendell Berry from The Country of Marriage



Thirty five years ago today we became one story, a story still being told.
What joy it is to know you and be known by you!
May our story have many more chapters celebrating the poetry of life together, with a minimum of plot twists and cliffhangers.

We’ll trust the Author who touches us with Words as tenderly as we touch each other.
It is bliss to love and be loved from the first page to the last.


17 thoughts on “Thirty Five Years Ago Today

  1. …and, obviously, still very much in love and a much-needed affirmation and witness to our young couples just beginning their journey as one together…proving that IT CAN BE DONE and is very much worth the effort….
    Celtic/Scot/German, et al blessings on you both, Emily and Dan….


  2. Thank you all for your comments and encouragement. Dan and I feel very blessed we were led to each other and celebrate the years we’ve had together and the hope for many more to come!

    blessings all,


  3. A belated happy anniversary to you! Indeed, a beautiful story of lives is still unfolding with exciting chapters to look forward to by His grace. Emily, what a gift you are not only to Dan, Nate, Ben, and Lea, but to our whole family! Love, Linda


  4. Congratulations Dan and Emily. You two are an enduring and inspiring testimony of a beautiful union in Christ. Happy Anniversary and wishing you many more!
    –Gerald and Tammy Rutgers


  5. Congratulations from India and a belated marriage anniversary. God bless you and your family.
    Kind regards, vkn
    PS: Fyi.. for several years since you began I have been reading your writing. Looking forward for more from you. Keep up the writing!


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