Our Wedding Vows

Before God and this gathering, I vow from my heart and spirit that I will be your wife/husband for as long as we both shall live.

I will love you with faithfulness, knowing its importance in sustaining us through good times and bad.

I will love you with respect, serving your greatest good and supporting your continued growth.

I will love you with compassion, knowing the strength and power of forgiveness.

I will love you with hope, remembering our shared belief in the grace of God and His guidance of our marriage.

“And at home, by the fire, whenever you look up, there I shall be–and whenever I look up, there will be you.”

(written during a lunch break on the roof of Group Health on Capitol Hill, Seattle Washington in July 1981 before our September 19, 1981 wedding at First Seattle Christian Reformed Church)

*the last line is adapted from Thomas Hardy’s  “Far From the Madding Crowd”

And Joy Will Find Her…

For my big sister Nancy Polis Casey on her retirement after 41 years of work as a physical therapist

When she no longer has to go to work
she won’t sleep in or stay up late.

When she no longer has to go to work
she’ll get calls asking her to share what she knows.
Her help will continue to make a difference
to those whose healing depends
on her teaching and encouragement.

When she no longer has to go to work
she’ll play with grandchildren when a daughter needs a nap
and she just happens to have an empty lap to fill.
She’ll cook a meal when a friend cannot manage it,
knowing when life overwhelms
with pain or sadness, even small acts of kindness
rescue the heart and restore hope.

When she no longer has to go to work
she will not sketch flowers on white plates
or paint landscapes in watercolor,
but instead will get dirty and grow blooms herself
to take to those who need fragrant beauty
instead of a picture on the wall.
She will trellis tomatoes
simply to share a thick slice of rich flavor
when someone is hungry and needs to be filled.

When she no longer has to go to work
she will find more than plenty to do
because there is so much yet to be done.

Even when she no longer has to go to work
Life will come and find her ready

And she will know joy.